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Jaeleen: Posted on Monday, March 05, 2012 8:15 AM
Welcome to Emma Magdaleen of SF and Audrey Pele of New Orleans! They're the latest in the amazing group of humans to join the Bondassage team.
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Jaeleen: Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2012 11:23 AM
Best Bondage Erotica 2012
Review
Mia Moore
As someone who has only read the highest class of smut from far
too early an age, say Anne Rice’s Sleeping Beauty series at age 12, I
can highly recommend Best Bondage Erotica 2012 for both the kinky minded
and vanilla alike.
The book is 226 pages of bondage from both sides of the male and
female paradigm, which is markedly different than the normal male
dominated, literally and fictionally, bondage novels.
Best Bondage Erotica is edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel with a forward by renowned bondage artist, Midori.
These stories made me hot, made me squirm, and reading the book had
to be broken up over several days, as I had to take breaks. Study
breaks, if you will.
The story by Elizabeth Coldwell, called A Night at the Opera, where a
woman dominates her lover during an opera performance, gives me chills
and makes me think of Milan’s famous La Scala opera house, where I’d
love for this to happen to me.
And Laced by Elizabeth Silver, which contains a male on male was so
viscerally arousing, and yet so tender for a hard-edged story about sex
and domination.
This anthology features 21 short stories, so the reading is very
quick, like verbal porn, just enough to get you hot and get you off, but
linger in your imagination. And you know what they say; a dirty mind
is a terrible thing to waste.
Thanks to Cleis Press for providing this book in exchange for a fair review!
www.bondassage.com
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Posted on Friday, February 10, 2012 11:35 AM
5 Valentine's Day Surprises That'll Get You Laid - For the Ladies
There's less than a week til that holiday we love to hate and much of
what makes Valentine's Day difficult to bear is the pressure put on
guys to be "the man" and get their chicks some kind of boat or pony to
show they love them fo' realz. But spending big bucks on a present that may or may not make a
difference is not in the picture for most of us these days, and honestly
ladies -- you've gotta stop expecting your guy to do all the work.
So here are 5 affordable ways to show the guy of the moment (or the
one you want to keep around for a while) that you care -- and that
you're definitely interested in getting laid that night.
1. Role-play. With Costumes. Ask any guy -- one of several ultimate fantasies involves his partner
wearing some kind of get-up that resembles a super-hot female figure
from pop culture (or real life). Some usual suspects? Princess Leia.
Jessica Rabbit. Lara Croft from "Tomb Raider." Any character portrayed
by Angelina Jolie. Whatever his turn-on, try putting together an ensemble that gives him the right idea.
And if fantastical ladies aren't his bag, use the tried and true
French maid or naked chef (with an apron for safety) idea. Don't make
him wait until Halloween to see you wearing a sluttified version of an
everyday outfit.
2. Cook. Food and sex -- believe it or not, they're up on there on guys' "want
all the time" scale higher than oxygen and high-5's. And who wouldn't
want to come home from work/play to find he's got a full meal waiting
for him and he doesn't have to do a damn thing in order to eat it?
Figure out his favorite food and see if you're capable of making it.
Surprise him with a nice spread (pun intended) and if you're feeling
extra saucy (pun also intended) serve him wearing just an apron and a
smile. Make sure to drop a napkin more than once and give him a good show as
your bend, twist and reach for it. And no need for dessert, as whatever
he eats after he takes that last bite of steak is up to him.
3. Plan a Bedroom Adventure. This takes a bit of time and thought, but if that's a problem for you, you might want to rethink your goals. At this point you and your man probably have boned a few times and
you might have picked up on a few of his favorite sex positions - and
possibly a few he'd like to try but you haven't felt up for yet. Show your man how much you want him -- and want to please him -- by
rallying, stretching and prepping yourself for some selfless sex. He'll love knowing you spent at least a few minutes thinking about
exciting ways for him to fuck you and you to suck him, and if he sees
some sexy accessories by the bed his boner will be at full mast before
you touch your toes.
4. Practice Tantric Sex You've read about it, seen Sting talk about it on Oprah, but it still
seems like a completely fantastical act that only hippies and Grammy
winners practice. Not true.
It's not as hard as it looks. (That's what she said?)
5. Use Sex Toys. Yeah yeah, we all say we love sex toys, but chances are we probably
haven't dived into the couples toy world as deeply as we probably
should. There are apprehensions and nerves to bypass, and it's not
always easy to get him in the mood using something with a whirring
motor.
So how about getting a few sex toys that are made specifically for
his pleasure that you also can use together? The Fleshlight and other
masturbator sleeves make handjobs feel better than ever, and you can
make eye contact and all kinds of sexy talk to each other as you slowly
work him with your newly vagina-ized hand.
Or bring over a cock ring, especially one with a vibrator. This will
make his cock and balls look even huger than they already do (ahem) and
give him an extra-hard erection thanks to its blood flow control.
And with a vibrator you (aka your clitoris) gets some pleasure, too.
Chances are that little vibrating cock ring might give you an enhanced
orgasm as you're fucking, which will make you feel like a million bucks
and him feel like a fucking STUD.
But if sex toys ain't your bag, pick up some special lube -- flavors
can be fun -- or maybe some massage oil. That stuff is much easier to
introduce to a sex toy phobe and are still hella fun to use together.
Just remember -- this sex toy shopping trip is for him. Remember that
"Simpsons" episode in which Homer bought Marge a bowling ball for her
birthday? Do you think he really purchased that gift with his
blue-haired wife in mind? Nope. So don't pull a Homer - leave the glitter, pink bows, and rhinestones for your own personal pussy time. |
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Posted on Thursday, February 09, 2012 1:42 PM
Our First Sex Toy
Posted by Anonymous
Jan 30, 2012
I was never the type of guy who thought I would ever use any type of sex toy.
That was until I got with my fiancé who opened up a new world for me
and her. She’s the kind of girl who knows what she wants in the bedroom,
and you sure as hell better give it to her. She slowly introduced me to
my first sex toy, but that wasn’t our last!
One night while we were talking, she mentioned how much she would love for me to use a vibrator
on her. I wanted to but she’s been my only partner and I never bought a
sex toy. Of course I was a bit embarrassed when I knew she was sending
me to the store to look for a treat for her. Leaving the house with
money in hand, and my stomach was in knots. How did I know what to get
her? All I could think about was wanting to please her, so I knew
exactly where I was heading. I nervously opened the door and all I saw
was porn. I walked inside and started to look around. A man asked if I
needed any help, so I joked about coming in here and not having a clue
what to get. He made a few suggestions and I went with something pink.
It’s her favorite color. Walking up the stairs to our apartment seemed
to take forever. She looked my way with a huge smile on her face. “You
actually went” she said. I tossed her the box, and she didn’t hesitate
to open it. Within the next year, I discovered new ways to make her
world spin. My curiosity was starting to get to me.
The next toy we bought was a butt plug.
She was never interested in anal till the past year or so. I slowly
gained her trust and showed her all the pleasures she had been missing
out on. To my surprise, she was the one who bought the plug and lube. I
was shocked to see that she enjoyed anal that much. I was even more
surprised to see the size she had picked. She admitted to me it was much
larger than she expected, but with a little patience and lots of lube,
she was in heaven. Another purchase she made shortly after was two more
plugs. I had never suspected that she would love anal so much. I love
the fact that she always wants a plug in during sex. It’s really sexy,
and knowing she can get off from anal alone is a turn on in itself. I
love that she enjoys it so much mainly because I was the one who made
her love it. Which is rare when it comes to sex, shes normally showing
me what I like!
Our next purchase was the first one for me. It included a few c-rings
and a lovely masturbator. My girl knows me apparently. She was the one
who suggested we get these items. A masturbator is something every guy
has to try at least once. I rarely masturbate, so I didn’t see a need
for one. If I’m horny, I just get laid. Then I started thinking of all
the fun things that I knew she would do to me with it. So we ordered it
and used it as quick as we could get the packaging off and wash it. It
was like a gift sent from god. Having more toys for the both of us just
means more foreplay and more fun! The masturbator feels life-like and
you can have a lot of fun when it comes to partner play.
The c-rings she had bought were a new experience I didn’t even know
was possible. My girl was pleasantly surprised to find my cock was much
thicker. Since I have ordered my rings, I wear them every time we have
sex, and it has made it a new experience for us both. I get amazing head
for hours a day because my girl loves the way the veins pop out of my
cock when I wear it. I love the results we both get from me wearing one.
It’s funny how a simple ring can cause such a drastic change in your
sex life. But if people have been using c-rings as long as they have,
somethings got to be good about them! C-rings really are a must have for
any man who is sexually active. If you don’t own one then you are
really missing out.
My girl has turned a virgin into a sex addict. I feel that I am lucky
to be with her. She keeps showing me new sides of sex I never would
have had the courage to try without her next to me.
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Posted on Monday, February 06, 2012 6:56 AM
5 Less Obvious Places to Touch Each Other
There are some perks to being a Human Sexuality major — and I’m not
just talking about its potential as a pick-up line. Take the time I used
my favorite places to be touched during sex as a way of remembering
where we have the most nerve endings. Or my discovery — thanks prof! —
that the parts of our body with the least amount of hair have the most
nerve endings. Some of the nerve-rich areas are pretty obvious — lips,
genitals, duh. But then there are body parts — with sparse to no hair —
that don’t get nearly the amount of attention they deserve. Try these
next time you’re in bed with someone:
- The ear. Try light wisps of warm breath over the ear and maybe some small nibbles at the top during your next make-out session.
- The collarbone. It is such a delicate part of the
body that someone else’s soft kiss there can bring you to that romantic
Bright Eyes love poem kind of place.
- The hip bone. This is like the center of movement
during sex. Any stimulation here will have a ripple effect on the rhythm
of what’s going on. Consider a firm grab of the hips or even a little
biting if you’re in the neighborhood.
- The inner thigh. This is a good place to go for a
tease before jumping in. It can be especially sensitive when your
partner is sitting legs apart — the feeling of vulnerability tends to
heighten the senses.
- The back of the knees. This tends to be the most
overlooked sensitive spot. Check in here while roaming down your
partner’s body, or perhaps when their legs are flung near your face.
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Posted on Friday, February 03, 2012 9:57 AM
It's always fun to DIY!
5 Sexy Homemade Gift Ideas For Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day
is approaching, and if you’re short on cash, homemade gift ideas are
your best bet. They’re sweet and romantic, without breaking the bank.
Plus, a homemade gift is much more special than any store bought one.
Here are five you don’t want to pass up on.
Chocolate Covered Strawberries
No, you don’t have to make a trip to your local gourmet chocolate
store and spend a ton of money to get a nice box of chocolate covered
strawberries. These are easy to make at home and can be easily dressed
up for Valentine’s Day with an inexpensive box and some tissue paper.
If you do have some money to spend, you definitely want to go quality
here. Get quality, organic strawberries and high quality melting
chocolate. Simply dip the strawberries in the melted chocolate and set
on a piece of wax paper. Refrigerate until they’re hardened and then
arrange them in your decorative box. Voila! Way better than any box of
chocolates you buy at the store.
If you want to get creative, look up some recipes on how to use white
and milk chocolate together. When you gift them to your partner, make
sure to include eating them sensually with a bottle of inexpensive champagne. That’s the best part of all!
Budoir Photos
Get your digital camera and take some sexy photos of yourself in lingerie
and then again, in various stages of undress. If you have a friend that
you trust to do this, employ them to help you so you can get some
better quality photos. Upload them to a free online video editor (or a
really good program if you happen to have one, but free editors are good
too) and fix blemishes, add a filter if you like or even make it black
and white for a really great look.
Once they’re done, print them out on a home photo printer (no, these
aren’t ones you can send to your local photo developer) and either frame
a few of your favorites or put them in a special book for your lover.
If you don’t have a photo printer, make a digital collage and send it to
him with a sexy email. He will love being able to look at you instead
of porn when he’s feeling randy. Of course, he’ll still look at porn too, but your photos are likely going to be his special favorite.
Sex Coupons
Sex coupons are always in style and extremely easy and inexpensive to
make for Valentine’s Day. You can grab some construction paper, markers
and glitter from the store if you want to go all out, or you can simply
type them out, throw a few cute clip art photos on there and print
them. Either way, sex
coupons are an excellent option if you don’t have a lot of funds for
the big day. Just make sure you actually follow through whenever your
man wants to redeem them.
If he wants to redeem a coupon for a 30 minute long blowjob
and you say you’ve got a headache, it’s like you’ve taken his gift back
to the store, just before he got to open it. So go through with
whatever you put on your coupons, whenever your guy redeems them.
Headache or not.
Cook A Delectable, Candlelit Dinner
You don’t have to go out to dinner on Valentine’s Day if you don’t
want to brave the crowds or don’t have the cash for a decent
reservation. Plan a meal that you can cook, and set the table. Most
people actually don’t eat at the dining room table, so if you set the
table with candles and everything, it’s going to seem almost – almost – like
you’re at a restaurant. If you can’t cook, order out! Just make sure
you’re sitting across the table from your beau without the distraction
of the television, your phones, the computer, etc. To make it sexy, try
cooking and eating while completely naked. Or, let him eat dinner off you.
A Sexy Treasure Hunt
Make your man go on a treasure hunt – with you as the treasure! Leave post-its with dirty messages
on them, or rose petals leading from the door all the way to the
bedroom. Use your creativity to come up with a fun way for him to find
you, so long as you’re waiting for him either naked or dressed in
something very, very sexy. He will love the suspense of looking for you,
only to find you ready and waiting for him!
Thanks for a great article, Kaylen! Find more tips for your sweetie at www.bondassage.com
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Posted on Friday, January 27, 2012 11:11 AM
A lovely article from Midori:
What Every Submissive Needs To Know Before They Play
by Midori
Published: November 21, 2011
When you find it, the desire to jump
into the deep end of the BDSM pool can be irresistible. The excitement
of new found friends, playmates and activities can drive a submissive
off track and into dangerous situations for mind, body and soul. In this
letter to my submissive friends, I offer some advice to avoid the
pitfalls during your adventures.
Dear Friend,
I am so excited for you! It’s such a thrill to watch you blossom
into your own sexuality and forge ahead with erotic explorations. For
too many years you’ve denied your desires and then struggled to come to
terms with them. Now, as you’ve discovered there are others like you; a
community of people who enjoy the same things you do, you radiate with
the joy of finding acceptance and common ground, a place where you could
be heard and let’s not forget, get hot play.
I know you’re about to rush out the door for a play date, but would
you take a moment and hear me out? I know everybody and everything
you’re encountering seems exciting and wonderful, but will be potential
pitfalls, heartaches and dangers along the way. I’m your friend so I’d
like to do my best to help you avoid them.
Remember, whatever desires, roles or labels we take on, we’re people
first. Respect yourself, respect others and choose to be with those who
respect you for all that you are. Even the most gloriously degenerate
and depraved play must start from a place of mutual respect and return
to that afterwards.
You didn’t get this far in life by being a doormat; so don’t let
people walk all over you just because they say they can. You are
powerful. Choosing submission from a place of power is beautiful. Find a
person who appreciates and treasures that. You’re like a hot-blooded
racehorse; under sleek beauty simmers great energy. But you get to
choose who will take your reigns, so don’t let just anyone take control,
or you’ll get taken for a ride. Be choosy — you’re worth it.
Common sense still rules. Don’t leave it at the dungeon door. Trust
your intuition and gut feelings. They won’t let you down. They’ve served
you well in the mainstream dating world, and they’ll serve you well
now. Remember when you dated Mr. Handsome? He was all slick, smooth and a
hot lover who said all the right things. Remember how that turned out?
Big time disaster! The same happens in kinkdom. There are just as many
smooth talking self-centered bastards with great play skills — don’t
assume everyone you meet has your best interest at heart, even if they
say they do. Take the time to find out who they really are before you
jump into anything.
Take time to make friends you can trust. Honestly, dominants come
and go, but friends will be your lifetime support, asset, second
opinion, conscience, warning bells and shoulders to cry on.
While you’re newly exploring, try playing with many tops and
dominants to see which one suits you best. Some people will try to tell
you that a “good” submissive can be trained to serve any dominant. But,
it’s no different than dating; personality, chemistry and mutual
interests are still just as important as they’ve always been. Where
bedroom chemistry doesn’t necessarily mean good boyfriend material,
great kink skills or dominance doesn’t make him great boyfriend
material.
Remember, tops and dominants are people too. They have their flaws,
strengths, good times, bad times and vulnerabilities, just as you do. Be
kind to them. Like you, most are working hard to figure it out
themselves. They don’t have all the answers, and they’re also
continually evolving. Some have a hard time coming to terms with even
that. If they make a genuinely well-intended mistake, and own it, give
them the benefit of the doubt.
Many people will offer advice, companionship, even protection to you
when you’re first starting out. Some will be genuine offers of
assistance and friendship; others will have their own agenda.
Ultimately, you are in charge of taking care of
yourself. When you are considering playing with someone, you need to
gauge if you’re going into play in a good place physically and
emotionally. You need to take care of your pre-scene and post-scene
health and heart. You need to state what sort of after care you need and
from whom during negotiation beforehand. Maybe certain aspects of your
aftercare need to come from someone other than the dominant you played
with. If so, you need to arrange for or ask for what you need
beforehand.
During a scene, you need to state if things are not working. You
absolutely have the right to say ‘no.’ Yes, bottoms and submissives get
to have a say in their own boundaries, what works and what doesn’t. This
doesn't automatically make you bad or topping from the bottom. If a
dominant can’t deal with your boundary setting, you don’t have to deal
with them.
Surrendering is delicious. It’s like a fantastic vacation from every
day pressures. You can take these mini-vacations, but you don’t get to
check out of life and your responsibilities.
Deep play can give you clarity of vision and perspective on life. It
can be meaningful and feel therapeutic. But that doesn’t make it
therapy. Kink can’t fix you or your problems — nor can any dominant.
That’s up to you and your life’s work.
In this adventure you’re having, you’re going to learn a whole lot
about yourself. Some discoveries will be amazing. Some will be amazingly
challenging. No matter what, love yourself — because you’re utterly
lovable, powerful and amazing.
You are dear to me, my friend.
Love,
Midori
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Posted on Monday, January 09, 2012 10:41 AM
Just trained an amazing new Bondassage practitioner this weekend ~ Genevieve Genteel ... she'll be offering sessions in SF soon!
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Posted on Wednesday, January 04, 2012 9:33 PM
Lots of great news ~
We're getting very, very close to releasing the new Bondassage website, and it's a beauty! It should be live next week :)
Tracy in Berlin will be offering Bondassage Practitioner Training starting this month, and I've just certified two additional "Traveling" Trainers ~ Pele (Hawaii/Utah/San Francisco/New York) and Daria (Texas/Chicago/New York). Contact them directly and have them come out and train you!
I'm still working on the book, and just starting production on a series of short (30 sec) videos for youtube.
It's going to be a fabulously kinky year, folks!
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Jaeleen: Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 7:14 PM
Montaine and I will be teaching our popular "Tips and Tricks" class tomorrow night, Thursday July 28th, at Pure Pleasure in Santa Cruz from 7:30 - 9:30. We still have a few spaces left, and it would be lovely if you could join us!
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Posted on Tuesday, July 26, 2011 11:14 AM
I'm so excited to introduce you to our latest practitioners:
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Jaeleen: Posted on Tuesday, May 03, 2011 10:51 PM
Lots of new projects in the works!
There's a new Bondassage® Trainer in London (Miss Greta Muse), one in Australia (Liana Gailand), and one starting in New York this fall (Christina O).
I'm in the middle of re-designing the Bondassage website (it should be live August 2011), and it's STUNNING!
Just returned from a great trip to LA to the Temple of Bliss, where my good friend Donia Christine, held a Business Tips class for Sexuality Professionals.
Check back often for the latest news in Bondassageland and beyond... |
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